Every person you meet is a mirror.
When we share love, we see love
When we share kindness, we find kindness
When we hold onto anger, we find anger
When we desire control, we feel controlled
When we want another to “do it our way”
we rob them of their own Soul’s dignity,
for
we don’t know the greater why or how or what or when
the gift of their own awareness, learning, growth
or upliftment will bloom.
Who are we to presume we know what another truly needs?
If you could consider that everything that bothers you
about a person or situation is only a reflection of
what you think, believe or judge,
you would experience joy beyond measure
as you meet and accept the you that you see in others.
This isn’t easy stuff to get the hang of.
It hurts, it stings, and it is a royal pain in the you know what
when we begin the journey of letting go and opening
to the greater truth contained in our loving heart. I can tell you though,
that if you hang in there, your life will become much easier and more
fulfilling than you ever dreamed possible.
I’m not sure we ever stop wanting to change the “other” in our life
until we stop trying to change ourselves.
Our ego will always tell us if we change our environment, situation,
circumstance, etc. things will be better.
We keep from falling back into our old routines and habits by allowing ourselves
to grow naturally. What is forced doesn’t have a chance to get strong
and grow roots. What is nurtured grows strong.
If you could recognize that a fight is nothing more than a cry for love,
“see me, hear me, love me” then compassion is born.
Fighting fairly is to allow yourself vulnerability without taking
what the other is saying or doing personally – it is taking care of yourself
and then learning how to take care of others.
Sometimes the best way to fight fairly is to just walk away for a while
and chill out. Even a shower sometimes does the trick. Breathe, allow, and
choose to come from your loving heart – sometimes that means
putting yourself in their shoes.
It doesn’t serve you to “pretend” stuff doesn’t bother you.
Nor does it serve you to blame another for the response of upset.
The upset, theirs or yours, is real.
Instead take a look at it this way:
I’m angry,
I’m sad,
I’m upset, and the host of other feelings, both positive and negative,
are all accurate expressions
of feelings… when we say “I’m upset becuase_______
It’s the because that creates separation
and
“because” is the mind’s interpretation
of “why” the upset, sadness or anger occurred.
Be patient with yourself, compassionate, and gentle
and you will find the art of relationship becomes
the art of loving everyone and
especially
yourself.
