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Leadership & Life: the ABC’s of Decision Making
Posted by: | CommentsThe ABC’s that come to mind are: Always Be Conscious
Always, and in all ways, pay attention to your body’s feedback. While our mind is fantastic at thinking, the heart and the body frequently know things that are beyond our conscious recognition. Have you ever made an appointment with a doctor, to find out that you actually needed to see him/her when your appointment showed up? Just recently I had an appointment with my physician that had been made six weeks earlier. Lo and behold, the day before my appointment, I found out I really needed it. I was really glad to get in for that exam – especially since he is usually booked two months in advance.
Then again, there are the times I’ve heard (usually more than once) to make an appointment for X, call Y, or do something else specific. Because there was no apparent “need” I’ve put it off and paid the consequences. ALWAYS pay attention to the little things that appear more than once. Generally when you inwardly have a recurring thought, there is a good chance that you need to follow up. This is your inner compass. Have fun with it, learn to trust it, and you will find life’s decisions easier to make.
Be yourself. No need to impress another, or get their approval. When you pay attention to your own inner guidance system (INS) you will find the guidance available to make tough decisions. They may not be popular, but they will ultimately be the best one for you. March to your own drummer. Tune in so you can turn on to the amazing melody called you!
Conscious. Always be conscious of your intuition and notice when you lose your center. If you find yourself fuzzy, unable to make a clear decision, or wanting someone else to take responsibility for your choice, be aware that this is a red flag that your “life is in session – and lessons are at hand.” Often times, you are running an expectation toward what you want, what someone else wants, or what you think you (or they) want. There are even times when others will give you advice that is unconsciously designed to put you in their debt. TRUST YOURSELF. Ultimately, every choice has its consequences. Find the path that leave you feeling most at peace, and chances are you have found your personal “road less traveled.”
How that you’ve learned your ABC’s here’s the DEF’s.
Decide what works best for you. Try it out.
Evaluate the results.
Follow through with adjustments as needed.
Good luck with your ABC’s and DEF’s. They do get easier with practice.
A good friend, business mentor, or coach can help you get clear when the going gets muddy. Don’t forget that even with our ABC’s in place, we all sometimes need a mirror to see our reflection.
Ego, Illusion & You
Posted by: | CommentsI read a great blog post at Sizzle in the Middle called Spiritual Obsessive Disorder. The author, Tracy Pattin, highlighted a recent spiritual seeker’s event. One of the topics was about our ego and the illusions it perpetrates. I agree. It does.
With regard to relationships, the speaker commented, “We must not NEED anyone. We must WANT them.” I can see where she was coming from. When we are needy, or co-dependent, we “need someone” to fill our own unmet needs. That’s cool. So far so good.
Here’s where the EGO part gets tricky. The ego is the one that wants.
We long for what we want. We work for what we want. We pray for what we want. And the whole time we are hood-winked by our beloved ego.
The ego is a want machine. Everyone has a want machine, just waiting to take charge. Most unquestioned lives operate so that the ego’s needs may be served. It wants to be safe. It wants approval. It wants control. The ego is not capable of deep silence, introspection, nor unconditional love. It is not who you are. Our ego loves to dress up, pretend, and play games. It’s favorite game is taking us out of the present moment.
Our ego separates us from the core of our being, the one that “breathes us.” We ARE already unconditionally loved, accepted, and safe. That something is in control of our breath. Without that need fulfilled, we die. Our ego judges, compares, and needs to be important. The ego is important, but not the most important aspect of life. It is an operating system. It’s not a bad thing, it’s a human thing.
Pay attention to who is in charge during the day. Is it your head or heart? It’s that simple. When you pray, allow the deep core to take charge. We are all one, we are all connected. Prayer offered without an agenda is the only prayer that serves the highest good. Our ego pretends to know. It does not.
Tame your ego, and turn your prayer to one of gratitude not want. Find that still small voice within that knows what you need. Fill your cup with clarity. Choose wisely who you follow. Get beyond the ego to the truth within you. It alone can get you where your heart wants to take you.
Don’t believe what I say. It’s simple, not always easy to look within for your answers. The rewards are great, and you will be well on your way to a heart filled life, free from spiritual obsessive disorder.
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