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What is on the way to my future?
Posted by: | CommentsMany thanks to Zanish, who wrote me with the question, “What is on my way to future career and marriage relationship?”
I expect every one of us, sooner or later, has this secret question emerge from the depths of our being.
Here’s the reply.
Ultimately, is up to you to decide what you would prefer
to have in your future.
While there are times in life where things
don’t go the way we want them to go, we gather power when we
can accept that “what is, is.”
Being upset that we don’t have what we
say we want creates pain.
We build our future in the present moment.
Every action we take, every thought we have, every judgment or
kindness impacts our future.
Keeping our eyes on those things that are good, kind, and
uplifting helps strengthen us as we grow into the very relationships
and jobs we desire.
If I tell you your future,
then I rob you of the beauty of your discovery.
Your life is a precious
gem that belongs to you.
The wonder and awe that comes from choosing the life you want, the job or career
that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning, and the relationship
that feeds your soul come when you do your own inner work first.
The world is a mirror, and what we attract to us reflects much about
what we believe we deserve. As we learn to listen with the ears of the heart,
we learn what is important for us.
The best thing I can say is for you to spend time looking, listening and following the
clues that your heart gives you. Discover what
makes your heart sing, and then let that song lead you into the life
you want.
Like attracts like.
If you want peace, practice peace.
If you want caring, practice caring.
If you want love, be loving.
Thanks for being on the call.
Warmest regards,
Lin
The Art of Relationship Building
Posted by: | CommentsEvery person you meet is a mirror.
When we share love, we see love
When we share kindness, we find kindness
When we hold onto anger, we find anger
When we desire control, we feel controlled
When we want another to “do it our way”
we rob them of their own Soul’s dignity,
for
we don’t know the greater why or how or what or when
the gift of their own awareness, learning, growth
or upliftment will bloom.
Who are we to presume we know what another truly needs?
If you could consider that everything that bothers you
about a person or situation is only a reflection of
what you think, believe or judge,
you would experience joy beyond measure
as you meet and accept the you that you see in others.
This isn’t easy stuff to get the hang of.
It hurts, it stings, and it is a royal pain in the you know what
when we begin the journey of letting go and opening
to the greater truth contained in our loving heart. I can tell you though,
that if you hang in there, your life will become much easier and more
fulfilling than you ever dreamed possible.
I’m not sure we ever stop wanting to change the “other” in our life
until we stop trying to change ourselves.
Our ego will always tell us if we change our environment, situation,
circumstance, etc. things will be better.
We keep from falling back into our old routines and habits by allowing ourselves
to grow naturally. What is forced doesn’t have a chance to get strong
and grow roots. What is nurtured grows strong.
If you could recognize that a fight is nothing more than a cry for love,
“see me, hear me, love me” then compassion is born.
Fighting fairly is to allow yourself vulnerability without taking
what the other is saying or doing personally – it is taking care of yourself
and then learning how to take care of others.
Sometimes the best way to fight fairly is to just walk away for a while
and chill out. Even a shower sometimes does the trick. Breathe, allow, and
choose to come from your loving heart – sometimes that means
putting yourself in their shoes.
It doesn’t serve you to “pretend” stuff doesn’t bother you.
Nor does it serve you to blame another for the response of upset.
The upset, theirs or yours, is real.
Instead take a look at it this way:
I’m angry,
I’m sad,
I’m upset, and the host of other feelings, both positive and negative,
are all accurate expressions
of feelings… when we say “I’m upset becuase_______
It’s the because that creates separation
and
“because” is the mind’s interpretation
of “why” the upset, sadness or anger occurred.
Be patient with yourself, compassionate, and gentle
and you will find the art of relationship becomes
the art of loving everyone and
especially
yourself.
Finding your Purpose
Posted by: | CommentsPeople so often ask me “How do I find my purpose? Consider that your primary purpose is to breathe in and breathe out. That may sound simplistic, but bear with me. We can do without food or water for periods of time. Without air, we die. So fundamentally, our purpose is to breathe. As a martial artist, I learned early that my breath could control fear, strengthen me and help me do things that seemed impossible.
I was talking with a friend last night and I asked her how she developed her own championship mindset and purpose. Her comment was, “I just put one foot in front of the other, and did what I had to do.” Her purpose was to raise her children as a single mom, to provide a home, education, and love. She surrendered to what was in front of her and let go of trying to find her purpose. It found her.
Purpose is like that. Sometimes it is the thing we resist the most. James, a chaplain, spent the first 21 years of his life in and out of hospitals. He had no use for doctors or medicine. Yet when he found his purpose, he found himself in the last place he ever thought he’d end up. His purpose called him, and he answered.
Your purpose will call you if you let yourself hear the still small voice of truth within. That’s a purpose we can all aspire to. The habit of cultivating silence opens the door for purpose to reveal itself.
In Carlos Castaneda’s book, The Teachings of Don Juan: The Way of the Yaqui Warrior, Don Juan talks about path. “There are a million paths. Anything is one of a million paths…..all paths lead nowhere. “Does this path have heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere.” Perhaps purpose and path are the same thing.
Follow your heart, and if it your path is good, breathe it in deeply, surrender to the mystery, and enjoy the ride.
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Ask for Help
Posted by: | CommentsIf I were to look at the hours I spend figuring new stuff out, I would find I’m into deficit spending of my time! That’s where learning to ask for help can help make the difference on many levels.
My lovely ego says, I should be able to figure things out. It parades itself like a child in a Halloween costume, hoping to impress or scare someone into murmurings of approval for having done something grand.
If only life worked that way. But it doesn’t. When I get real and realize that if I ask the right question to the right person, they can help me solve my challenge in a flash. Take this blog for example. For months I’ve not been able to accept comments. My virtual assistant hasn’t figured it out yet, nor my other wordpress savvy friends. The wordpress forum suggestions don’t work either.
If I’m to stay conscious, I need to also pay attention to where I put my life force. Majoring in the minors robs me of the energy and time needed to do what I do best. As business owners, and owners of our life force, we need to keep our hand on the pulse of our business (or life) so that we can make responsible decisions. Other times, it’s best to delegate. Only you know what works best for you.
When in doubt, set aside the ego and ask for help. Which exactly why I’m going to close this blog post and do just that.
Where are you holding onto the thought that you “should” be able to figure something out? Invest in yourself and save your energy for something you love to do. You’ll be a lot happier….I know I will.
Entrepreneurs: What’s your Financial Setpoint?
Posted by: | CommentsI met an amazing young woman last weekend at Christine Comaford’s 7-Figure Business Summit. She asked me for some coaching, as she was up against her unconscious financial set-point, and unable to decide whether or not to invest in an advanced program to build her business. Here’s her story, and perhaps yours as well.
Her parents always had “just enough” to make ends meet when she was a child. Now an entrepreneur, she had only just enough to pay her bills. Regardless of her best intentions, she could never make more than “just enough” to survive. She had accepted her parent’s version of just enough, and had never recognized its impact on her life. As we spoke, she realized that she could easily expand her version of just enough to include herself and anticipated business expenses. Worry was replaced by wonder at the simplicity of adding herself and her ongoing education into her financial equation.
In a moment or two, she re-evaluated her just enough set-point by adding in self-care, tithing, and money to cover unexpected expenses and training. Her face lit up, and in that simple process of asking herself what her current “just enough” was, she was able to expand it to an amount that was believable for her.
Here’s a way to re-set your “just enough” button, and begin to loosen your unconscious beliefs. Left unexamined, your bank account is sure to suffer!
1) What’s your “just enough” figure? To find it, look at your actual monthly expenses.
2) Did you include optional items, such as vacations, self-care, massage, continuing education, tithing, saving, or unexpected expenses? If not, factor in enough money to cover them. As you add these up, they represent your new “just enough” income set-point. Self care is not optional, nor is investing in yourself. Take time to identify what is important to you. Factor their cost into your “just enough.”
3. Pay attention to the thoughts you have about including yourself in your “just enough” scenario. As you expose these hidden beliefs, you lessen their hold on your life.
4. Have fun! Expose and update those pesky beliefs - and notice how your income expands. Enjoy the new awesome opportunities as they come knocking at your door…
and recognize that you were always “more than enough” to make your dreams come true.
